Grief & Glimmers

Grief, the "Invisible Disability."

Living with grief can often feel like an invisible disability. An affliction that can be brought on by our environment and triggered without warning. There are many days where my struggles are hidden behind a smile. A daily mask I wear, shielding others from the discomfort my truth might bring.

The burden of silent suffering weighs heavy, a choice that's made to spare those around me. I'm acutely aware of how my oversharing can sometimes make others feel awkward and uncomfortable.

The challenge of oversharing, particularly when grappling with the complexities of CPTSD and a small brain injury, adds an additional layer of vulnerability. The involuntary nature of oversharing, followed by the subsequent feelings of regret and self-perceived foolishness, underscores the intricate dance between a genuine desire for connection and the unintended consequences of sharing too much.

This delicate balance between concealing personal struggles and sparing others from discomfort is a tightrope walk that extends beyond mere self-preservation. It delves into the nuanced awareness of how oversharing can create unease for those in our circles. The conscious decision to wear a daily mask is not only a shield for oneself, but also a compassionate act to maintain harmony within relationships.

For many grieving parents, the weariness of carrying this concealed pain lingers. It exposes the need for open dialogue around invisible disabilities and grief, challenging the stigma that surrounds vulnerability. Like others, we need to be heard and validated. We long for genuine connections, where sharing the weight of one's struggles becomes an opportunity for understanding and support. So, be patient with us, no matter where we are in our grief journey.

-Sandra Martins -Toner